Religion and son's birthday party

Ok, so I recently felt like I wasn't going to go down the Jewish path, because I couldn't convert to Judaism. After discussing it some with (who admitted that she's gotten used to my doing this), I've decided that I'm going to keep on this path, but that doesn't stop me from looking at other faiths as places from which I can learn things. I may, someday, find a Rabbi who can convert me, otherwise I'll be the shul goy. (Not exactly a pun..) So now going back to no pork, etc., and I'll figure out the rest later. I would like to find a community where I fit in, though. The Jewish community here has no problem with my attending and all, but I'm not really *part* of the community, it's like I attend but don't belong. So that's something for me to ponder as well. This Saturday, we are having 's first birthday party! We've been working on getting the house clean and ready for 12 adults + more possibly, and 4 kids from 12 to 18 months (or so). Fun fun! Really all I have left is some laundry, my bathroom, and the office if I can manage it. We're planning to have a cake for him to eat (we'll see), one for adults (although the other one is just fine for adults, too!), and some trays of veggies for people to eat (may have a little more, we'll see).